courtesy of freeimages.com We had a rare moment with our son who was added to our family almost two years ago at the age of 8. He sat at the restaurant table with me and my wife. We were “eating out” to celebrate his birthday. He wanted pancakes so we sat in the only restaurant in town that sold them. He ordered the mini pancakes. The pancakes were tiny. When he said, “I will probably want more because this won’t fill me up” I knew better. He is hardly ever hungry and almost never asks for more of anything. Sure enough, when he had finished those few half dollar sized pancakes he didn’t want any more. That probably is a result of lack of food in his early years. He spent his first 8 years of life in an institution in Eastern Europe. Because of his background he has some difficulty forming attachments. As we ate, my wife began asking him about feelings, i.e. “Can you think of one time when you were happy?”, “Can you think of one time when you were scared?” etc.